Relax to Last Longer During Sex
Sex can be one of the most fulfilling physical expressions between someone and their partner. However it can be really great or not so great depending on the conditions. Performance anxiety can emerge and it can be difficult to relax and genuinely connect with your partner. If you’re finding it difficult to eliminate tension and enjoy sex, develop a plan to reduce stress in order to relax and make sex last longer.
Begin the relaxation process by leaving the day’s activities and worries at the door. Make a conscious effort to focus only on having an enjoyable sexual experience at home.
Turn tension and anxiety into productive energy. Consider going for a run or doing yoga to de-stress mentally and physically.
Treat yourself with a relaxing activity (i.e. take a hot bath or shower, sit quietly for 15 minutes or listening to soft music).
Connect with your partner though simple affection. With such busy schedules, it is easy to forget subtle acts of affection like cuddling or hugging.
Focus solely on the physical connection you’re experiencing with your partner. Pay attention to every kiss or touch to create an experience and take time, there is no need to rush.
Tips and Warnings
* Set a personal boundary in order to separate day life from home life. If you need to vent with your partner, allow yourself to do so for a set amount of time (i.e. 15 minutes). After that time you are not allowed to discuss it further. Remove all distractions (i.e. television, phone or music with words or distracting melodies).
* After taking necessary steps, if you’re having increased difficulty with focusing on sex, consider having a physical exam to determine if there is a physical reason. Also consider counseling and treatment by a sex therapist.
About this Author
Shemiah Williams is a young but experienced writer. She holds a bachelor’s degree in business and technology and a master’s degree in clinical psychology. She serves as a subject matter expert in many areas of health, relationships and professional development.